There’s something about fear & anxiety that makes us believe we’re weak.
Like there's something wrong with us.
Like we’re incapable.
Like decisions are going to ruin us.
But what if anxiety isn’t trying to destroy you?
What if fear is trying to protect you?
Because that’s what I realized — and it completely changed my life.
Fear is Not the Villain. Fear is Your Bodyguard.
Imagine there’s a king or a queen — you.
And you have a bodyguard — fear.
Whenever fear sees something that might harm you emotionally, financially, socially, mentally — it raises an alarm.
It’s not trying to hurt you.
It’s trying to warn you.
So the king (you) calls fear and asks:
“What did you see? What are you trying to tell me?”
Fear explains based on past experiences — real data stored in your subconscious.
And then you decide what to do.
Not fear.
You.
This Shift Changed Everything
Seeing fear as the enemy makes you panic.
Seeing fear as your protector gives you clarity.
It changed:
how I react to situations
how I think about uncertainty
how I handle decision-making
Fear became my consultant — not my dictator.
This Insight Came from a Book
I was reading Joyful Wisdom by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche.
There was this one paragraph:
“Don’t fight the fear or run from it.
Make a deal with it.
Fear, be my bodyguard.
Show me how big and strong you are.”
I stopped.
Reread it.
Closed the book.
And just sat there absorbing the truth of it.
In that moment I realized:
Fear shows up because I matter.
Because I am important.
Because I am worth protecting.
That hit me deep.
You Are Bigger Than Your Fear
The reason fear feels overpowering is because we start treating it like the king.
But no — you are the king/queen.
Fear is the bodyguard.
You have final authority.
You make the decisions.
You choose your direction.
Fear only raises an alarm so you can make informed decisions.
Last year, I was confused.
I knew I wanted meaningful conversations, soulful expression, something real.
But I was scared.
Scared of:
being judged
people questioning me
not being experienced enough
not having a future in this
not earning money
Every time I wanted to start, anxiety froze me.
Then I sat with fear.
Literally sat — pen and paper.
I asked:
“What are you seeing that I can’t?”
I wrote all the cons.
Then I wrote all the pros.
And suddenly…
The pros were stronger than the cons.
That’s when I started fearlessly.
Not because fear went away —
but because fear now sat next to me, not on top of me.
How can you do a Fear Analysis, like I did?
Next time you're anxious:
Sit quietly
Ask fear: “What are you trying to show me?”
Write everything out
Because fear has a database of your past experiences.
It’s not random.
It’s not stupid.
It’s actually wise.
Fear tries to warn you before you repeat old mistakes.
That tightness in your chest?
That sinking in your stomach?
It’s not weakness.
It’s an alert system — your personal bodyguard saying:
“Hey, something needs attention.”
Fear Doesn’t Want to Stop You. It Wants to Guide You.
You don’t need to silence fear.
You don’t need to escape fear.
You don’t need to “overcome” fear.
You need to consult fear.
Ask it:
What do you see?
What pattern are you reminding me of?
What outcome am I afraid of?
That’s how fear becomes wisdom.
You Are Not Supposed to be Fearless
You are supposed to be fear-guided.
Fear-supported.
Fear-informed.
Because fear is here for you, not against you.
You are bigger than fear.
You are the king/queen.
Fear is just your bodyguard.
Next time anxiety grips you:
Don’t suppress it
Don’t run away
Don’t panic
Just sit and say:
“Fear, what are you trying to show me?”
Because fear isn’t your enemy.
Fear is your advisor.
Fear is in your team.
And once you see it that way…
you’ll never be anxious at the same level again.
❤️ Simmy Goraya
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