If at any point you’ve felt like your life is being controlled by everything outside you —
people, trends, expectations, chaos — this one is for you.
There were phases in my 20s where life felt like:
Everyone has direction except me
Everyone’s opinions mattered more than mine
Every decision came from outside influences
I was just surviving trends
And the truth is… I didn’t even know I was lost.
Your Life Is Being Controlled. Not By You.
We turn to the outside for:
Validation
Answers
Opinions
Inspiration
But we never pause to ask:
“What is my philosophy of life?”
What is the guiding compass inside me?
Because if your compass is absent,
you will go wherever the world pushes you.
The Flood of Distractions
It’s not your fault.
Social media. News. Trends. Content creators.
Layer after layer of distraction pulls us away from ourselves.
We’ve become people who search for “readymade answers” because it’s convenient.
But what comes fast… goes fast.
That’s why TED talks, Josh Talks, quotes, motivational videos feel powerful for 10 minutes — then disappear from memory.
Why?
Because it didn’t come from you.
It didn’t come from your inner wisdom.
It was someone else’s philosophy.
Your Philosophy Is Your Inner Dialogue
Your philosophy of life isn’t something you read somewhere.
It's the way you talk to yourself when things go wrong.
It’s the answer that arises from:
Your experiences
Your values
Your character
Your emotional maturity
Those answers stay with you.
Those answers shape you.
Those answers build you brick by brick.
When the Crowd Moves — Pause.
The world jumps on every new wave.
AI. Crypto. YOLO. Hustle culture. Aesthetic lifestyles.
We follow because:
“Everyone is doing it.”
“Maybe I’ll be left behind.”
But pause.
Ask:
Is this aligned with who I am internally?
Just because something is trending doesn’t mean it belongs in your life.
My Personal Philosophy Today
Today, my internal compass says:
“I want to value myself.”
Value my:
Time
Body
Spirituality
Words
If something doesn’t align with that core philosophy…
I let it go.
Even if everyone else is running behind it.
It's not ego.
It’s clarity.
That’s How You Become Unshakeable
Strong personalities don’t come from following crowds.
They come from:
Knowing what you stand for
Testing your beliefs in tough times
Learning from failures
Staying rooted in your truth
That’s when your decisions stop trembling.
That’s when you “arrive home” to yourself.
You Don’t Need My Philosophy. You Need Yours.
I cannot give you a philosophy.
No one can.
But I can remind you to start asking:
What do I believe?
What do I stand for?
What truly matters to me?
What aligns with who I am?
And then… test it in real situations.
If it fails, refine it.
If it works, keep it.
This is how maturity grows.
Why Most of Us Never Find Ourselves
Because we outsource everything:
Food
Entertainment
Decisions
Opinions
But decisions cannot be outsourced.
Your results will also be “outsourced” then.
You can't build a meaningful life through someone else’s mindset.
Have Courage - To Get The Real Secret
The courage to:
Think alone
Choose alone
Stand alone
Grow alone
Even if people think you're weird.
Even if society labels you different.
What matters is:
You know who you are.
And the people who truly know you… understand you.
Start Your Journey From Here..
Not tomorrow.
Not next week.
Now.
Ask yourself:
“What is my philosophy of life?”
Write.
Reflect.
Journal.
Let answers come from inside — not from the internet.
Finally, what to collect from here?
I don’t have answers for you.
I only have questions that lead you back to yourself.
And if this conversation helped you pause — even for a moment — then it has already done its work.
❤️ Simmy Goraya
So… what is your philosophy of life?
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